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30
Apr

CURE FOR ACADEMIC EXAMINATION PARALYSIS/ANXIETY

April 30, 2012

An Octogenarian Plus Four recalls himself as a grade school lad wonderfully coordinated athletically but little interested in the life of the mind or academic pursuit.  His anxious mother would say in asides:  “Er kann nicht lesen (German – ‘He can’t read’.  His teachers, it is recalled, almost yearly, it seemed suggested that, perhaps,  grade promotion should be postponed.  Needless to relate this lad approached the academic rigors of high school with self-doubt and lack of confidence. THE TRAP WAS SET. Read more »

22
Feb

BECKETWOOD COOPERATIVE – WELLINGTON GALLERY AND ART MUSEUM

February 22, 2012

Becketwood Cooperative’s resident art curator announced the fortieth consecutive monthly art exhibition for March.  Submitted art is to be accompanied with a descriptive statement of 75 words or less.

SENTIMENTAL TREASURES

PICTURES

OBJECTS Read more »

13
Feb

VALENTINE DAY – WHEN THE LOVEBUG BIT THE BARTLINGS

Fred was not one to get into Valentine Day but he married a woman who was.  So when the children were young and all under our roof Valentine Day was a day to celebrate.  This was the evening we ate in the dining room using a white tablecloth and red candles.  And I believe I splurged and bought fresh flowers, not from a florist because it would have been too expensive but at the grocery store.  Read more »

6
Feb

Grandma Schmidt’s Apple Kuchen Recipe

February 6, 2013

(See blog January 26, 2012 of which the following is a response by Grandma Schmidt’s relative. “‘Grandma Schmidt’s Apple Kuchen’ Disappears”.

Hi Folks!  After Prof. Bartling’s blog was published about the missing Apple Kuchen, people began requesting the recipe.  We believe the secret to be the mixing with the hands and the specifics about the pan size.  So, here it is for all to enjoy! We’d love to hear if yours is worth stealing as well.

Kuchen:

1 1/4 Cups all-purpose flour, 1/4 Cup Sugar, 1/2 tsp.salt, 1 tsp. baking powder, 1/2 Cup cold butter, cut into small pieces, 2 egg yolks, 2 tsp. milk, 1/4 tsp. PURE VANILLA EXTRACT, 4 apples, peeled, cored and sliced.

Streusel:

3/4 Cup sugar, 2 TB flour, 1/4 -1/2 tsp. cinnamon, 2 TB butter, cut into small pieces. Read more »

26
Jan

“GRANDMA SCHMIDT’S APPLE KUCHEN” DISAPPEARS

January 26, 2012

Recently one morning my wife and I hosted the Concordia Retiree Book Club in the East Dining Room. The evening prior Ruth baked “out of this world” rolls  and also “Grandma Schmidt’s Apple Kuchen”. Our guests enjoyed the pastries served on elegant silver trays along with hot steaming coffee or tea. Book discussion completed enough “goodies” remained in anticipation of 0ur morning breakfast for several days to come.  The remaining pastries were placed on a ledge in the mailbox gathering area. Engaging in an extended conversation with a colleague we were out of sight of rolls and kuchen.  Conversation concluded we discovered that Munching Becketwoodian Thieves left a few crumbs for our breakfasts anticipated the next few days. Read more »

2
Jan

A SIBLING’S CELEBRATORY REQUIEM: Balancing Sadness and Gladness

Funeral service of Holy Communion  for Victoria Ruth (nee Bartling) Bouman  was observed on the Fifth Day of Christmas, December 29, 2011, at Grace Lutheran Church, River Forest, Illinois.  My sister Victoria, eldest of six siblings,  was born  January 14, 1923 and died early morning Christmas Day.

How to frame a eulogy for my sister?  Really, very simple and straightforward . Victoria was gentle, kind, soft-spoken, most supportive of  her younger brother, when reaching young manhood most kindly complimentary. Read more »

21
Dec

FAMILY PHOTOS – MEMORIES – CHRISTMAS (2007), 2011

December 21, 2011

One of my daughters wishes to give her nephew her Christmas table yule log. Our daughter inherited this from her parents who in turn had inherited it from her grandparents (my folks). Did I have information, she inquired, regarding the origins of this family treasure? My wife knew how and when we acquired this treasure. She suggested I view our photo discs to possibly find a picture of the yule log set festively on a Christmas table . Sure enough – a picture in my folk’s home in St. Louis with their grandchildren ranged around (my cousins).  Another similar setting on the occasion of my wife’s fortieth birthday celebrated in St. Louis.  Our grandson, my daughter’s nephew, will be in possession of his great-grandparent’s gift to our Bartling lineage.  Pictures of his -great grandparents, his grandmother, and great uncles and aunts. What follows is some musing on my part regarding  THE CIRCLE OF LIFE   when our children received the family photo discs at Christmas time.

“Memories come to mind when downsizing our family slide collection to DVD format. 916 photos on four discs dated 1958 to 1985. Family picture taking is usually a time of positive family experience. A quarter century of Bartling family photos suggests a theme similar to the animated film The Lion King:  THE  CIRCLE OF LIFE.  Read more »

8
Oct

THE NOVEL “PASSING” – LIGHT SKINNED ENOUGH TO PASS AS WHITE

October 8, 2011

Recently a program that reviewed new books in the Becketwood library one in particular caught my attention.  Immediately I understood it to be the flip-side, or northern racial version of the novel and movie “”Help” set in the South. (See blog – Aug 21: HELP WANTED – MAIDS OF HONOR  and “KILLERS OF THE DREAM”) The novel “Passing” was written in 1929 Read more »

26
Sep

RULES FOR THE SUMMER

These rules were designed and decreed by wife Ruth in summer 1972 when she was employed outside the home. I was the househusband in charge of four daughters;  Catherine 11, Elizabeth 9, Anastasia 8, Stephanie 5.  Two older siblings, Victoria 19 and Fred 17, were beyond a rule framework and had the run of the city. Summer Rules were written on poster board and posted in the kitchen.  Here they are and bring merriment  Read more »

19
Sep

DOWNSIZING’S IMPERATIVE – “TRAVEL LIGHT”

Downsizing our household became imperative prior when moving to our new home,  Becketwood Cooperative.  A major project involved changing approximately twenty-five slide carousels to DVD discs. Recently we spent an evening reviewing the contents of several boxes of memorabilia and “treasures”  we brought along from our separate offices to our Cooperative home. Little survived the scrutiny and true treasures were almost nonexistent. “Supposed treasures” Read more »